There are certain areas in my life I want to make sure that I ace. These are the areas in my home that I want think of as top priority so that they always come first, before all of the everyday, mundane things get in the way. A few years ago I led a small group of ladies in our church. Each week we discussed different aspects of the Proverbs 31 woman, but we also kept everything in perspective because sometimes we, as women, think we need to do EVERYTHING, and we really don’t. There most certainly needs to be a balance. Choose 1-3 things to work on if you like, but don’t overwhelm yourself with trying to be perfect.
A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has a reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
then, with the money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
when he deliberated with other city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise;
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!
Proverbs 31:10-31 (The Message Version)
My Top Priority Areas where I Want to Make an A+
1. Appreciating my Husband – submitting, respecting, loving, and showing him how much I appreciate him and what he does for our family; always speaking highly of him even when he isn’t around to hear it, never giving him a reason not to trust me
2. Spending Quality Time with my Children Teaching them 24/7 – I can focus all I want to on their academic education, but if I miss those Life Moments where I teach them with my actions and make memories with them, I’ve missed it as a mom. I want to be encouraging, nurturing, and speak positive things into the lives of my children.
3. Managing our Home with Excellence – Daily Activities, Finances, Cooking and Meal Planning, Education and Academics, Extra-Curricular Activities, Church Activities to name a few… I want the main functions of our home to be easy to carry out because we maintain a balance of order.
*You may be shocked that I didn’t put anything about spending time with God on this priority list. My idea is that he doesn’t need to be a number on a list. God influences and is a part of EVERY part of my life. He consumes the entire thing and doesn’t belong on a list in my opinion.
My home isn’t going to be perfectly clean ever. I’d like to keep it generally tidy, but I’m okay with making a B in this area. No, my house won’t be dirty and gross, but it won’t be sparkling either. I’m okay with taking a B in this area to make an A in my top priority areas. I’m also not as crafty as I’d like to be by making clothes, gifts, and gardening. Maybe I can focus on these aspects of the Proverbs 31 woman later, but for now I’m okay with taking a B in these areas as well.
What’s your list? I’d love to know the areas you’re working on making the grade in your own home!